Your Affray With Life

My earliest recollection of summoning all my strength for a single feat dates back to when I was eight years old. After a regular evening with friends that involved a lot of sports and a little more of discovering ourselves, I was faced with a situation that told me not only about myself, but about human tenacity. I had just entered the compound of my house when the front tyre of my bicycle slipped on the garden hose that was strewn across the road. The handle twisted into my ribs, I lost control of the bicycle and found myself lying face down on the road.

Like any other eight year old, my first instinct was to cry out in pain and wail as loud as I could. Only this time, I didn’t. As I fell and realized what had happened to me, my eyes scanned the immediate environment and sent a signal to my brain that there were no onlookers. There was no help available. I was badly hurt, my insides ached and I had trouble standing up, but I didn’t cry. There was no point.

Gasping for air and struggling to fight the vertigo, I began trudging my way to the house gripping my sides. I noticed a large blood clot on my finger that had turned a strange hue of purple. It made me panic slightly, but also made me realize the urgency with which I needed to find someone. As a child, one of the most fearful situations is one in which a child feels physically unsafe. With every step my insides hurt more and the desperation of finding someone rocketed. After a numbing minute or so that I remember vividly, I entered the house and heard voices. It immediately calmed me. My heart rate began going back to normal and I lay on the bed, exhausted. I finally felt safe.

It's all out there.

Today life may seem endless, but even the largest ocean meets a shore somewhere.

A situation is only as urgent as you make it. Only as challenging as you want it to be, and only as intimidating as you let it be. There are countless stories that document human struggle, that talk about people conjuring superhuman strength in times of dire need. Something I’ve noticed over the past few years about people is that they tend to give up a little too easily nowadays. The principal reason being the availability of options and alternatives to everything. But you know what the problem with alternatives is? They’re not as good as what you were aiming for in the first place.

Don’t shy away from struggle, and don’t shy away from hardship. If there’s anything in the world that is of substance to life, and is truly meaningful and has purpose, it is overcoming the hurdles that lie between what you have and what you want. It’ll give you a sense of accomplishment, a sense of achievement and most of all, it’ll build belief in yourself. A few years down the line when you’re faced with a really grave situation and you feel like you’ve dug yourself into the bottom of an endless pit, it’s those moments of achievement that you’ll look back on to fight your way out. No matter how many motivating words you may hear, it all comes down to what you can find within yourself that’ll influence how hard you’re able to fight.

Believe me when I say this, you’re going to get old really fast. Before you know it, you won’t be fighting for what you want, but you’ll be fighting for keeping what you already have. Lives fall apart because people don’t have the will or the energy to fight for what they already have, because they never really wanted it in the first place, it’s just something that they got or picked up along the way. While you’re young, you have to use all this energy and gusto to fight for what you want as much as you can. Fight today, you never know what tomorrow will bring.

Someone very wise once said that it’s the inches in life that matter. Every inch in your life that you fight for, that you claw at. All these inches eventually add up, day by day, inch by inch, and eventually make the difference between winning and losing. Between having what you get, and having what you want. When you’re down and out, when you’re at the bottom of that pit, it’s the inches that’ll matter. Ask anyone, all their failures and their regrets are about a little bit of this, and a little bit of that. A little bit. An inch.

Your days are now. Your time is now.

Don’t stop fighting. It’s what will make your final ride into the sunset a moment of real glory.



  1. Aashima · March 23, 2011

    Sometimes it’s not about what you want. Sometimes you do not understand what you want or whether you actually do want what you think you want. In the bargain everything seems to be a compromise, and the struggle seems futile. Eventually, you reach a stage where you convince yourself this is how it really is and you struggle / fight to hold onto whatever little you have, because what you wanted, was never real.

  2. Avtar · March 23, 2011

    Some things are out of our control, and eventually, the magnitude of what we have is measured in terms of the people around us. Sometimes, a little for someone, is just about enough for someone else. It’s only how we look at it, and how we make things appear and how we make them feel. =)

  3. Jaskirat · March 23, 2011

    Really good man,a story of one’s life at one point or other where one gives up so easily just afraid that he can’t do the struggle,this is the point where winners are separated from the rest.A really motivational blog,forcing the reader to look inside and make him think is he really doing what he wants,what he has planned or he is just doing it coz its an easy path …
    Good one,
    Keep it up..

  4. Aniket Sengar · March 23, 2011

    Shit. This is good stuff.

  5. Anushree · March 23, 2011

    I like the note of positivity that this blog has…and the point that it states about realising and cherishing what one already has rather than going after something that we don’t have and making ourselves unhappy..

  6. Dhananjay · March 24, 2011

    A very inspiring piece of writing, dude! I couldn’t agree with you more on the fact that everything is in one’s mind and that a situation is only as out of control as one’s mind perceive it to be. Nice work!

  7. Avtar · March 24, 2011

    Jaskirat, thanks a lot. It’s pretty much what I was aiming for. =)
    Aniket, thanks mate. Glad you liked it. =)
    Anushree, yeah I decided to do away with the sarcasm in this one. 😉 Glad it helped. =)
    Dhananjay, always nice to read your comments, thanks a lot for the kind words. =)

  8. sahil · March 24, 2011

    Hey ,
    those are such inspiring words written out there and its so true that the difference between our dream and its substitute is that one inch which turns into a failure.
    By the way keep writing such articles.Really nice..

  9. Reva · March 24, 2011

    This blog is simply awesome! Thoughtful of you to even think on these lines…..Inspiring! Every once in a while i might have to read stuff like this to stop and intervene myself. Good one! ❤

  10. Vasundhara · March 24, 2011

    Good one.

  11. Tanya · March 24, 2011

    If I had a formula for bypassing trouble, I would not pass it round. Trouble creates a capacity to handle it. I don’t embrace trouble; that’s as bad as treating it as an enemy. But I do say meet it as a friend, for you’ll see a lot of it and had better be on speaking terms with it. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes
    Amazing Work…Titillating and captivating, as always …:) ❤

  12. Avtar · March 24, 2011

    Sahil, thanks a lot! And you’re absolutely right. =)
    Reva, I thought I’d linked you before. Glad to know you liked it. =)
    Vasundhara, thanks. =)
    Tanya, real nice quote, and thank you so much. =)

  13. Sheena · March 24, 2011

    Finding strength in oneself is in itself an accomplishment, one which can take us a long way, victorious throughout. But often, it is something outside ourselves that helps us find that strength, and helps build it into something that we can count on whenever at the bottom of the pit. A very well written post, I’m glad you write like you do. =)

  14. raveena shadija · March 24, 2011

    you have the skill to notice small issues in life and learn a whole lot more from it and even make the other do it.few people in my life i have seen doing it.
    The blog was so practicle,every word of it so unobjectionable and the flow of thoughts and motivational concepts behind it-flawless!
    dont ever let me be abstained from such applaudable blogs.keep updating ! 🙂

  15. Avtar · March 24, 2011

    Sheena, that something outside ourselves only helps us find that strength, eventually it is us who overcome the odds. It’s you. Always. =) And your final statement means a lot, thanks so much. =)

  16. Divya · March 24, 2011

    awesome stuff ya.. like it..!

  17. Aakash · March 24, 2011

    Don’t know where to start, but this piece of writing is definitely motivating and inspiring. I agree with the author that people these days give up too early because of the options and alternatives they have. They need to realize that its not too hard to achieve what they want, all they have to do is make efforts and work hard. Things will start working out for them. Work hard and make the best of this life !

  18. Avtar · March 24, 2011

    Raveena, thanks so much and I’ll definitely keep you updated. =)
    Divya, thanks a lot. =)
    Aakash, couldn’t agree more. =)

  19. Utkarsh · March 25, 2011

    Man!! You’ve put the thoughts in the most appropriate words… People usually tend to accommodate failure or rather compromise… Its important to give your all until you have no more left in terms of strength … Your words are definitely very very inspirational … might i share a video link on the same :

  20. silky sonthalia · March 26, 2011

    this is real good doubt..doesn seem its ur first..yu rite ur heart out..tat’s wat is good abt tis one…and its reli nice…

    only one thng..i reli wanna say is..somewhr while reading it one somewhr looses the tch tat u tryin to cud be cz u are lacking smting..i felt related to it..but din feel me but felt it was someone else saying it..i don kno if u reli get wat i lacks slight personal tch..

    but i love the way u hav put thots in sentences..the riting is reli good..the words, the sentences, the thots..amazing…don take ma comment in a -ve way..i don mean to hurt ur feelings…


  21. Avtar · March 27, 2011

    Utkarsh, agree with you completely. Thanks a lot. And great link, Fall of Giants right? =D
    Silky, I appreciate the detailed feedback, it’s always welcome. Yeah, usually long articles do need little bursts of energy every now and then to keep the reader glued, but thankfully you did finish the article! Thanks for the feedback and the kind words. =)

  22. Kim · October 20, 2011

    Hellelujah, Avtar!

    You can write so good!
    I couldn’t stop reading hihi!!
    Good work..

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